Saturday, January 21, 2017

Staying Strong and Walking Away

Staying Strong and Walking Away 

You know what's hard about being a strong person? When people don't know the price you paid for that strength. They didn't see the fire you had to walk through and they compare themselves with where they see you know. 

For many strong people, the difficult circumstances that are unspoken of, the ones that made you strong, are still going on but somehow you have managed to keep going and learned to let adversity motivate and drive you rather than defeat you.

But, what happens when people that see this  decide they want what you have and need to compete with you to get it. They don't understand that they can develop their own gifts and so they come after yours. 

A strong person is trained by life to react uniquely. When attacked or belittled, they won't retaliate with anger and malice but rather will exude grace and mercy as they attempt to absorb the price of helping another person unpack their pain, knowing that is their calling, secure in their identity in Christ and purposed to perform for the greater good. 

There does come a point in every strong persons life when they encounter someone or even a group of people that are toxic. That person or people come to misunderstand the strong persons unique reaction and are blind to the goodness and kindness of their heart. The toxic person(s) are not able to compete or compare so they attack and the blame game is in full force.  

So what is the solution for the strong person? Removing yourself from the situation and trusting the conviction of God to intercede. Sick people need you to be less than who you are. They want you to act outside of yourself so they have an excuse for their behavior. When you walk away, without your presence, they will have only eyes to see themselves. 

A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion.
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭18:2‬‬

I share this because on this journey the last 6 years, I have had to remove myself. At first, people blamed me for abandoning them. This is a tactic to keep you in the toxic place. Don't fall for it. You have a right to walk away from anything that is not healthy for you.  

If you keep doing what you have always done, you will keep getting what you have always had. Have faith and give God a chance to give you something new, let Him do what He has planned for your life, and stay strong. 

A Grateful Believer in Jesus Christ


Thursday, December 22, 2016

2017: Healthy Connections and Stewardship

Goals 2017:

Since 2012, I have set a simple goal, an area that was impressed on my heart to work on. This last year was authenticity and God did a good work on me. 

I have been given two areas for 2017 and I am excited to embrace the journey. Those areas are "healthy connections" and "stewardship".

For healthy connections, I am realizing the difference between wanting people and needing people in my life. It's impossible to want that which we need. Reflection has revealed to me that I was wired for connection and the connection I need is with the Godhead. Lacking healthy connection with the Father, Son and Holy Spirit will cause me to seek out people, places and things to fill that gap. This is the cause for my own people addiction and struggle with co-dependency. I know as my connections become healthier, there will be a shift in my ability to love others. That work has already been started in me and I am able to see the difference in my relationships with my children and my friends. 

Stewardship was another area huge on my heart stemming from a revelation that everything in this world is a gift from God and I should respect it as such. My morning prayer has been for God to help me be a good steward of time, love and money. I know through good stewardship, all those areas will increase. 

""One who is faithful in a very little is also faithful in much, and one who is dishonest in a very little is also dishonest in much."
‭‭Luke‬ ‭16:10‬‬

I want to put out there, it is through progress, not perfection that we are molded. I hope by sharing these goals, they motivate you to reflect and set some space aside for the Lord to work on an area or areas in you for the coming year. 

A Grateful Believer in Jesus Christ,